Love everybody, but beware whom you form particular attachments to. For people who excite envy, lust, or the kind of loathing that you reserve for reflections of your most despised selves, a little love, quickly rendered, should suffice. Pray. Exercise; dress as nattily as your budget permits. You’ve got the rest of your life to let yourself go. And take heart — you’re Catholic now. Nobody’s getting any (or if anyone is, they’re keeping it mighty quiet).Do read the whole thing; it's worth it.
On the other side of the sexual expression aisle are people like Eve Tushnet: those living with same-sex attraction who want to remain faithful Catholics. Her blog and writings are invaluable for any person who wants to know more about the intersection of faith and real life, especially seen through the combined lens of intellectualism and pop culture. Her post, "Yoda and the Giving Tree," led me to a new and wonderful blogger, Gabriel Blanchard, who writes on his own struggles at Mudblood Catholic. The first post I read was "Raw Tact, Part X," in which he quotes Dorothy L. Sayers (from my favorite book of hers, no less!) so I was hooked at that point. His writings show that all single Catholics have a lot in common, more than the variety of our histories and sexualities would lead us to believe.
And in a more general sense about the faith, Mark Shea pointed out a recent post by Nicole DeMille, who blogs at Invisible Woman, titled "Ten Tips to Help You Stay a Sane and Effective Catholic."
Finally, I just finished listening to the audio book of Happier at Home, by the invaluable Gretchen Rubin. I loved her earlier book, The Happiness Project, and I bought used copies for both of our campus libraries. (And I can't wait for her next book, on Habits!) Listening reminded me of her blog, and the many resources it offers, so I revisited that. There I came across a helpful post: "Feeling Lonely?" in which she offers seven tips to combat loneliness. She readily acknowledges that there are no easy answers, but the tips she provides are very practical, and there are more links and resources too.
And, to take this back to where I started, Katrina Fernandez posted more recently on "A Single Person's Guide to Having a Fulfilling Love Life," with a link to a group that was new to me, The Angelic Warfare Confraternity, dedicated to helping people live chastely. Their prayers seem especially helpful, and there's even a short version for time-pressed, easily-distracted people like this blogger.